The study of custom can be profitable only after certain preliminary propositions have been accepted, and some of these propositions have been violently opposed.
It started out as a cathartic exercise. I wrote a letter to my assaulter, humanizing him as " you, " to identify him as part of the very community that he had so violently abused that night.
Which means limiting what somebody can do in a way that is damaging. It’s also a jacket with long arms that are tied behind a person to stop them from behaving violently.