In order for vacillators to cultivate healthy stable relationships, they need to learn how to pace themselves and get to know someone before committing to soon and getting hurt by their own expectations.

若想要敏感者培养健康稳定的人际关系，他们就需要会调整自己，在做出承诺并因对自己的期望而受伤之前先对方。

It is just as the media has cultivated the fault finding. We can cultivate the benefit finding.

正如媒体培养我们成为消极者一样，我们可以把自己培养成积极者。

And that's been very influential, this idea that music is a cultivator of different forms of attention, not all of them an attention that is spent on the music.

这一观点响深远，即音乐是不同形式注意力的培养者，并非所有注意力都集中在音乐本身。

It is really important that you know your coaches and that your coaches are great teachers, great developers, if you're going to subscribe to that theory.

的教练并确保他们都是出色的教师和培养者，这一点至关重要，如果认同这种理念的话。

Making it exciting to buy books, to make better and better communicators on Twitter, through books, through op-eds, through podcasts, through so on.

让买书变得激动人心，通过书籍、专栏文章、播客等各种方式培养更好的沟通者。

Unless the brood parasite kills all of the host's young, it may be best to simply foster the imposter.

除非寄生虫杀死宿主的所有幼崽，否则最好简单地培养冒名顶替者。

Whereas those who are generous, it's not about the self-sacrifice, it's about giving in ways that nurture more givers.

而那些乐于助人的人， 这并不是关于自我牺牲，而是以培养更多给予者的方式去给予。

Then why not go after the gardener who grew 'em?

那为什么不挑他们的培养者呢？

However, they must be taught the right attitudes and approaches to their learning and develop the attributes of high performers ?

但是，必须教他们正确的习态度和方法，并培养高绩效者的特质。

And we got conditioned into giving.

我们被培养成给予者。