It is actually one of the most patronizing things for a disabled person to experience is for someone non-disabled to come and say, " You're so inspirational."
And I couldn't have asked for a more anchoring, generous, thoughtful teenager. And I don't mean to say that in a patronizing way, but it's just the way it is, you know? - Yeah. Yeah.
Jack. (In a very patronising manner.) My dear fellow, the truth isn't quite the sort of thing one tells to a nice, sweet, refined girl. What extraordinary ideas you have about the way to behave to a woman!
He spoke in that refined French in which our grandfathers not only spoke but thought, and with the gentle, patronizing intonation natural to a man of importance who had grown old in society and at court.
And yet, somehow, did Ahab—in his own proper self, as daily, hourly, and every instant, commandingly revealed to his subordinates, —Ahab seemed an independent lord; the Parsee but his slave.
These questions will help you grasp the situation more fully, and the recipient may accept the criticism more easily than he would if you had seemed condescending.