All of these are examples of situations where we're out of step with social expectations, and teaching where the boundaries of social norms and good behavior are seems to be the key point of embarrassment.
The lone rebel among us was Conseil, who seemed utterly uninterested in the question exciting us and was out of step with the general enthusiasm on board.
More generally, perfectionism is increasingly out of step with the ways that products are developed, employees are treated and workforces are organised.