Another way to be a good listener is to use reflective language.

另一种为优秀倾听者的方法 是使用反射性语言。

Rather, listening involves hearing the speaker's words and reinterpreting them, adding information if necessary.

相反，倾听包括听讲者说话并重新解释这些信息，如果有必要的话，还要补充一些信息。

They allow the listener to enter the story, making them more open to learning.

还会使倾听者可进入故事，使他们更愿意了解。

For this, they will tend to need a hugely supportive and patient listener.

为此，他们往往需要一个非常支持他们，并且耐心的倾听者。

So what do we do about listening? How do we become better listeners?

所我们对于倾听要做些什么？我们如何为更好的倾听者？

They also sometimes cause the listener to correct your statement.

它们有时也会使倾听者纠正你所说的话。

So babies absorb the statistics of the language and it changes their brains; it changes them from the citizens of the world to the culture-bound listeners that we are because we as adults are no longer absorbing those statistics.

因此，宝宝吸收语言数据，这改变了他们的大脑；这将他们从“世界公民”转变了我们这样的“受文化约束的倾听者”，因为我们这些不再吸收这些数据了。

Well, she's a good listener, and she keeps secret-that's important to me.

嗯，她是个好的倾听者，而且能够保密——那对我很重要。

And... sorry, lastly, it's also important to be an active listener.

最后，做一个积极的倾听者也很重要。

The listener is in a different place.

倾听者在不同的地方。

(6) Deep relationships Introverts are great listeners.

（6）深层关系内向的是很好的倾听者。

So how do you become a better listener?

那么，你如何才能为一个更好的倾听者呢？

Being a good listener helps establish friendship.

做个好的倾听者有助于建立友谊。

Repetition is harder on speakers than listeners.

重复对说话者比对倾听者而言更困难。

OK, but I'm a good listener. You can tell me if you'd like to.

好吧，但我是个很好的倾听者。如果你愿意的话，你可告诉我。

Be a good listener. Encourage others to talk about themselves.

做优秀的倾听者，鼓励对方谈论他自己。

Their software allows X-ray Glass to listen to conversations around the wearer and show the transcription either in the AR glasses or on a smartphone app which helps Josh when he's in a work meeting.

他们的软件允许 X 光眼镜倾听佩戴者周围的对话，并在增强现实眼镜或智能手机应用程序上显示转录，这可在乔什参加工作会议时帮助他。

" If we don't do a good job of helping them be careful readers and careful listeners, it stands to reason that as citizens they won't be careful listeners and careful expressers of their own thought, " he said.

“如果我们不能很好地帮助他们为认真的读者和细心的听众，那么作为公民，他们自然就不会为细心的倾听者和谨慎表达自己思想的。”

All he needed, at first, was a listener. After a while, he would head into his bedroom, alone, to transform it into the place that lived in his mind.

起初，他只需要一个倾听者。过了一阵，他会独自一走进卧室，将卧室改造他心目中的地方。

The best small talkers do that by listening attentively, looking at the speaker, keeping eye contact, and having open, relaxed body language.

最擅长闲聊的会通过专注倾听、看着说话者、保持眼神交流，及保持开放、放松的肢体语言来做到这一点。