It is just as the media has cultivated the fault finding. We can cultivate the benefit finding.

正如媒体我们成为消极者一样，我们可以把自成积极者。

Then why not go after the gardener who grew 'em?

那为什么不挑他们的者呢？

And we got conditioned into giving.

我们被成了给予者。

Unless the brood parasite kills all of the host's young, it may be best to simply foster the imposter.

除非寄生虫杀死了宿主的所有幼崽，否则最好简单地冒名顶替者。

Whereas those who are generous, it's not about the self-sacrifice, it's about giving in ways that nurture more givers.

那些乐于助人的人， 这并不是关于自我牺牲，是以更多给予者的方式去给予。

However, they must be taught the right attitudes and approaches to their learning and develop the attributes of high performers ?

但是，必须教他们正确的学习态度和方法，并高绩效者的特质。

Making it exciting to buy books, to make better and better communicators on Twitter, through books, through op-eds, through podcasts, through so on.

变得激动人心，通过籍、专栏文章、播客等各种方式更好的沟通者。

It is really important that you know your coaches and that your coaches are great teachers, great developers, if you're going to subscribe to that theory.

了解你的教练并确保他们都是出色的教师和者，这一点至关重要，如果你认同这种理念的话。

And that's been very influential, this idea that music is a cultivator of different forms of attention, not all of them an attention that is spent on the music.

这一观点影响深远，即音乐是不同形式注意力的者，并非所有注意力都集中在音乐本身。

In order for vacillators to cultivate healthy stable relationships, they need to learn how to pace themselves and get to know someone before committing to soon and getting hurt by their own expectations.

若想要敏感者健康稳定的人际关系，他们就需要学会调整自，在做出承诺并因对自的期望受伤之前先了解对方。