In order for vacillators to cultivate healthy stable relationships, they need to learn how to pace themselves and get to know someone before committing to soon and getting hurt by their own expectations.

若想要敏感者培养健康稳定人际关系，他们就需要学会调整自己，在做出承诺并因对自己期望而受伤之前先了解对方。

It is just as the media has cultivated the fault finding. We can cultivate the benefit finding.

正如媒体培养我们成为消极者一样，我们可以把自己培养成积极者。

And that's been very influential, this idea that music is a cultivator of different forms of attention, not all of them an attention that is spent on the music.

这一观点响深远，即音乐是不同形式注意力培养者，并非所有注意力都集中在音乐本身。

It is really important that you know your coaches and that your coaches are great teachers, great developers, if you're going to subscribe to that theory.

了解你并确保他们都是出色师和培养者，这一点至关重要，如果你认同这种理念话。

Making it exciting to buy books, to make better and better communicators on Twitter, through books, through op-eds, through podcasts, through so on.

让买书变得激动人心，通过书籍、专栏文章、播客等各种方式培养更好沟通者。

Unless the brood parasite kills all of the host's young, it may be best to simply foster the imposter.

除非寄生虫杀死了宿主所有幼崽，否则最好简单地培养冒名顶替者。

Whereas those who are generous, it's not about the self-sacrifice, it's about giving in ways that nurture more givers.

而那些乐于助人人， 这并不是关于自我牺牲，而是以培养更多给予者方式去给予。

Then why not go after the gardener who grew 'em?

那为什么不挑他们培养者呢？

However, they must be taught the right attitudes and approaches to their learning and develop the attributes of high performers ?

但是，必须他们正确学习态度和方法，并培养高绩效者特质。

And we got conditioned into giving.

我们被培养成了给予者。