But if this, the surviving spouse is a bonehead with the money and just blows through it, then you also feel like, Hey, well the kids shouldn't have to, they shouldn't have to come in.
但如果这样, surviving spouse 成为了一个理财白痴, 把钱都挥霍掉了,那么你也会觉得, 嘿,好吧,孩子们不应该是这样的,他们不应该是要来收拾烂摊子的。