Katy says they are walking on eggshells – an expression which means to be very careful about what you do and say because you don't want to offend or upset anyone.
To that, I say be visible, own it, take seriously the responsibility we have, to lead by example, and do that by the values that you reflect and the way that you move in the world.
Whatever lip service might be paid to gender equality, families are also highly talented at sending out covert messages about what a 'real' man or a 'real' woman should honourably do.