We have all been in an argument that seems like it's going nowhere. We believe that we are right.
They believe that they're right. And no matter how much you talk to each other, it just seems like you're never going to come to a conclusion.
So in this video, I'm going to go over exactly how to have an argument, and I'm gonna share with you the five critical things that you need to understand. Let's start with an example that I think everyone can relate to.
Let's say you have a girlfriend who is always late, and you want to change this. You may have brought it up subtly before, and you may have said stuff like, oh you're late again, or it would be nice if you would come on time.
But for some reason, she does not get the hint. The first thing you want to do is clarify what you want within yourself.
So in this example, we could say something like this. What I want is for my girlfriend to be reliable.
I'm tired of being let down by her when she makes commitments that I depend on. The next thing you want to do is clarify what you don't want.
What I don't want is to have a useless and heated conversation that does not lead to change. When you clarify what you want, it will allow your brain to be focused on that outcome.
And it will reduce the chances that you will get sidetracked by unproductive arguing, which is common when you have a discussion with someone. The next thing you need to do is: ask yourself an "And" question.
How can I have a candid conversation with my girlfriend about being more dependable? And avoid creating bad feelings and wasting both of our time.
