It can be difficult for people with bpd to preserve relationships, because they often idealize, think very highly of and then romanticize someone for a while and then devalue or distrust or become disgusted with them.
And I'm fond of Dane Rudyer's interpretation of the symbol, which is a majestic rock formation resembling a face is idealized by a boy who takes it as his ideal of greatness, and as he grows up begins to look like it.
That system starts to crack, and in comes this era that I think a lot of us idealize, and perhaps probably rightly so, New Hollywood, when the power flips again, and young filmmakers are making movies cheap.
Idealizing and then oscillating to demonizing and what is the middle path like what is that perspective that we need to develop that's a beautiful question allow money to be your servant not your master.
So that reality that is so complicated needs to be handled by making representations of the world that are much, much simpler and abstract and idealized in various kinds of ways.
So whilst we idealize in some ways not being overtly aggressive, that there's this taboo about expressing anger, there are actually some genuine health consequences for chronic suppression of anger.